What an adventure these past eight months have been; divorce, relocation to Arizona, new job, a totally new life. I have lost so much and gained so much more.
My health and fitness have taken a backseat to an emotional roller coaster. Rather than focus on physical health, I was focusing on my mental health. I have processed every single emotion available in this world and ended on a calm, happy version of myself. I was forced to change; my world was literally flipped upside down and inside out, and I am now open and accepting of change, I am more resilient and flexible. I do not worry about every single little thing anymore; rather I allow myself to worry about the important things for a short time, then I let it go and keep moving forward.
I relied on family and friends (including my dog), lots of reading (the Bible, articles, blogs), watching motivational videos, and music (I am a firm believer that music has healing properties). I created a better relationship with God and worked through all the past hurt and anger (from birth to present day). I allowed myself to grieve and most importantly I allowed myself to heal.
At the end of that ridiculously long, dark tunnel there was a light. I worked extremely hard to see that light, to stand in it, and relish that wonderful light called hope. This process made me live breath to breath, then moment to moment, and finally day to day. I am still a planner but I don’t worry about the future anymore, rather I anticipate the fun adventures I plan.
When I let it all go and moved forward, I felt all those chains (all that negativity) fall right off; I literally feel lighter. I finally know, for a fact, that I deserve happiness and happiness looks good on me.
Make sure you are taking care of yourself, especially your mental and spiritual health. Get your head and soul right. Your physical health will be easier to manage when you do; I promise. The psychological hurdles you avoid will directly impact your overall physical health:
- Cortisol is the negativity hormone that holds on to all your fat, especially the really bad visceral fat.
- Your metabolism will slow down to a snail pace.
- Sleep will be impossible so your body will never recharge and rest.
- Stress and depression will make your body hurt and you will make yourself sick.
** If you are suffering from depression or having suicidal thoughts, please contact 1-800-273-8255 now. You are enough. You are worth this amazing life. **
I believe that we are who we choose to be. Nobody is going to save you. You have to save yourself. Nobody is going to give you anything. You have to go out and get it, fight for it. Nobody knows what you want except you. Never give up, ever. Create the life of your dreams.
Every day of your life is a special occasion because you are alive, so start acting like it!